My Musical Journey to Managing Anxiety

Anxiety is a disorder that doesn’t have a cure. Some people are lucky enough to be completely fixed with medications or therapy, but for most people it’s about managing the symptoms of anxiety rather than getting rid of it.

There are many ways I do this. I’m not afraid to admit that I’m on high doses of multiple different medications. I attend therapy religiously once a week. But, it’s still not enough.

I used to get super upset with that not being enough. Am I abnormal? Am I broken? The answer is No.

Anxiety is such a multifaceted disease, and it can sneak up on you at any time, under any circumstance.

One thing that really helps me manage my symptoms is playing the guitar. It challenges my brain to use itself in a new way, which distracts me from the anxious thoughts and emotions I feel.

It also gives me something to physically do with my hands that I have to coordinate with thought. Playing an instrument forces your brain to use multiple neuronal pathways, ultimately taking your mind away from anxious thoughts and feelings.

I just thought I would share this with you guys. Try it out! See if you like it 🙂 let me know what you think in the comments!

Love always,

Tay

Getting Real About Anxiety

I have anxiety. 

According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, Anxiety is THE MOST common mental health disorder in the US. Here are a couple facts I pulled from their website. 

  • 18.1% of the population is affected by anxiety disorder.
  • Only 36.9% of people suffering from anxiety receive treatment.
  • Anxiety disorders develop from a COMPLEX set of risk factors including GENETICS, LIFE EVENTS, and BRAIN CHEMISTRY. 

Why do I put these stats up? To tell you guys two things. 

  1. You’re not alone, even when you think you are. The public has stigmatized anxiety in such a negative way. You may think that you “just worry a lot” or “you feel anxious but for no reason” but the truth is… you’re not really that special (no offense!)
  2. You are not broken. Anxiety, just like any other illness, is due to an imbalance of chemicals within our brains and bodies. Certain life events make trigger this imbalance, or maybe we are more genetically prone to developing anxiety. However, it is an illness that can be fixed, or at least managed. 

So. I have anxiety. I have generalized anxiety disorder, Panic disorder, and PTSD. That is quite the mixed bag of emotions. I used to be ashamed to talk about it, but then I realized that if we keep stigmatizing mental illnesses, that number of people not seeking help is just going to increase and increase. 

People who have diabetes manage their disease, and we can manage ours as well.  I hope they  you realize that you’re not alone, and I am honestly always here to talk. 

My email is taylornsirset@gmail.com and my inbox is always open. 

Have a nice Friday, 

Tay

New Friends in a New City

I don’t think people really realize just how difficult it is to make friends as a working adult. I mean yea, most people have their coworkers, but we spend the entire week with them.

Making friends outside of college, while juggling a job, and just the day to day hardships of having to be an adult is rather difficult.

I’ve spent enough time wallowing in my loneliness, and I finally decided it was time to put myself out there to meet some girl friends.

There is an app called Hey VINA that is all about working women trying to meet up and make friends. It was made by girls for girls to meet other gal pals. Like any app, it’s pretty hit or miss with the people you meet, but I actually met a gal on there this past week, and we really hit it off!

Also the app called Meet Up is great, especially if you live in a large city like San Francisco. I joined a young writers group. We meet on Sundays to have coffee, hang out, write, and read each other’s work.

I will keep everyone updated as the friend hunt continues. But I’m really happy with how today went. Here are some really cool photos!

Tuesday Thrifting

Today I went to the thrift store just to pick up some goodies. I was kinda sad and that always makes me feel better! Anyways, the reason I’m sharing this is because the man who owned the store was dressed in a full leather cow boy outfit and he looked at me and said I was “more adorable than a basket of bunnies” and seeing me “made his whole week.” He then proceeded to ask me to “smoke a dooby.”

He was at LEAST 70.

Regardless, I got some great Agatha Christie novels for only a dollar each! Super sweet.

That’s all for today guys!

Roots music & botanical gardens

Hey guys!

Sorry I have been kinda MIA these last few weeks. Being an adult is a lot harder than it looks, as is having a real job and moving to a new city. But besides all that I just wanted to share with you my beautiful Sunday.

We strolled through the botanical gardens while listening to roots blues and folk music. I’m on a journey to appreciate some of the most legendary rock bands of all time, and I figured you have to start where it all evolved from.

My current playlists are filled with Robert Johnson, John Lee Hooker, Muddy Waters, and Bob Dylan and the list goes on. I highly recommend it. It’s nice to listen to the origin of something that has shaped our social culture so much.

Anyways, here are some photos I took!

Easy Sundays

Hi guys,

As you know I live in the amazing city of San Francisco, CA. From the diverse people and food, to the history engulfing every inch of the city, it’s easy to say I LOVE WHERE I LIVE.

Sunday’s in our house are used for meal prepping as well as errand running and taking it easy. Our day ALWAYS starts off at Equinox- our gym. From there we get any errands out of the way and this week we made a couple must see stops around North Beach (aka Little Italy)

We enjoy the way Europeans live, with a slower pace in their life. We stopped at Cafe Trieste, in the heart of Little Italy for an afternoon coffee. We just sat and talked… no technology. And we didn’t drink the coffee to just drink it. We enjoyed each other’s company, and that is something that I think many relationships lack. Everyone gets so caught up in the moment that they forget why we all fell in love in the first place.

We also took a detour to Candlelight Books. One of my favorite books is Inferno by Dante and at the entrance to the store they have a quote that says, “Abandon all despair, Ye who enter here” which I thought to be quite charming especially if you are familiar with the actual quote from Inferno.

If you make your Sunday’s fun instead of dreading Monday, life gets a lot more interesting. Stay tuned for my post tomorrow about meal preppy- I know super adulty.

Wishing you all happiness,

Tay

Growing Together- Shelf Building Edition

Hi guys!

This morning, after an awesome cycling class at our gym, the boy and I decided it was time to tackle that book shelf that has been laying on our living room floor. We had bought an electric screw driver because the assembly for a Target product was highly intensive.

The drill didn’t work. So it was full on manual labor, and let me tell you there were a lot of screws.

I’ve seen my parents assemble furniture together, and it almost always ends in an argument. I was worried that this would be a test of our relationship, and I was right. But instead of one of us storming off when we hit a road block, we managed to work really well as a team and trouble shoot the problem until we had that entire thing built. It was really fun to accomplish something together, especially since it was something going in OUR new home.

Check out some photos of our endeavors below!

Wishing you all the best,

Tay

Moving In With Your Best Friend

Today I moved in with my best friend / boyfriend of four years. We did long distance all of college- yea it was horrible. But now, we just moved into our first apartment and I honestly haven’t been happier in the longest time.

I think people who haven’t been in long distance relationships under estimate how amazing it is just to wake up next to your person or have them help you build a book shelf (aka what I’m currently not helping him do).

I’ll keep you guys all updated on what types of shenanigans we get into… oh and how it is living with a boy! Hahaha

Wishing you all the best,

Tay

What I’m Reading- “Sleeping Beauties”

Sleeping Beauties is written by none other than Stephen King and his brother Owen King.

It is about 800 pages long, so hang in there for the review on this one because I’m not sure how long it is going to take me to finish it!

I am about 300 pages in and the characters the authors have built are fascinating and so deep. The plot keeps you up at night, but it’s Stephen King so what was I really expecting?

I’ll keep turning pages,

Tay

“The Girl On The Train” – Review

I would give the book a solid 4/5 stars. I’m a sucker for an unreliable narrator, let alone multiple. The beginning was a little slow, but the end was totally worth it.

I won’t ruin it with any spoilers for those of you who haven’t read it.

The movie… all I have to say is holy EMILY BLUNT IS AMAZING. The cinematography and the rest of the cast were very below average but she stole the show.

Happy reading,

Tay